“I Can Do It!” Giving Toddlers Room to Try

“I do it!”

A toddler may say these words while putting away a toy, carrying something, or trying to put on a shoe. The task often takes longer than it would with an adult’s help. But the effort is an important part of the experience.

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Small steps toward independence​

Toddlers are discovering what they can do. Choosing between two materials, helping tidy a play area, or completing one part of a daily routine gives them opportunities to participate.

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At Little STEaMers, we want children to have time for these small attempts. A teacher can offer a manageable step, stay nearby, and help when needed.

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Why trying again matters

An adult may think an activity is finished while a toddler wants to repeat it.

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Putting blocks into a basket and taking them out again may seem simple. Each attempt gives the child another chance to practice a movement, notice a detail, or try a different approach.

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The result does not need to be perfect for the experience to be worthwhile.

 

Support when feelings get big

Wanting to do something independently can bring frustration. A piece will not fit. A lid will not open. A favorite material is being used by someone else.

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Teachers can acknowledge what is happening: “You’re trying to open it, and it’s difficult.” Then they can offer support: “Would you like me to hold it while you try?”

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Sometimes the child needs help. Sometimes they need a little more time. Learning to ask for help is part of growing independence, too.

 

Try it at home

Choose one small task your toddler already wants to attempt. When time allows, let them try before stepping in.

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Offer a choice or a little assistance: “Would you like to try first, or do it together?”

Keep the task appropriate for your child and stay nearby. There will be days when they proudly say, “Me!” and days when they want your help. Both are opportunities for connection.

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Those little moments of “I can do it” are part of a toddler’s big discoveries.